Adaptasi Budaya Dalam Pernikahan Etnis Tionghoa-Jawa

Abstract

Inter-ethnical marriage has become a phenomenon that many occur in society, if different ethnic marriage couples do not adapt to each other, there will be disunity among them. This study aims at how to adapt the culture to Chinese-Javanese inter-ethnical marriage in establishing family harmony by using the Theory of Adaptation (Judee Burgon) which explains that someone who has not known another one has two patterns, namely reciprocal and compensation and Accommodation Theory (Mulac H. Giles) that a person uses a linguistic strategy to show his ability to interact with people who have cultural differences with him. This research uses descriptive qualitative research type and phenomenology approach. Informants of this research are three pairs of different ethnic husbands between Chinese-Javanese ethnic in Semawis village, Semarang. The results of this study show that three different ethnic study pairs with adaptation and accommodation process can gradually understand the different characteristics of each other, although initially each couple takes a long time to adapt from the beginning of the introduction, dating until the couple is married. Every couple is able to give understanding to parents if ethnic and religious differences are not something that is a barrier for the household. The success of the adaptation process will result in a harmonious relationship in the household. The success of the adaptation process also reflects the success of the couple in establishing communication with their partner so that here formed as a harmonious family. The three couples can be a harmonious family because of mutual respect for their fellow family members, have good communication, always spend time with family, respect each other, have close relationships between family members shown by mutual help, and lack of internal conflict. Households Each couple uses a combination of reciprocal and compensatory patterns in adaptation theory, since all parties initially have a negative perception of new relationships but because they have the keenness to build deeper relationships so they need adaptation processes to adapt to each other.