MANAJEMEN KONFLIK HUBUNGAN ASMARA PASANGAN GAY DI SEMARANG

Abstract

Gay people in Indonesia are still a minority. The low population of gays causes jealousy and possessiveness to be the gay nature feeling of gay with each other. They will be very angry if their partner see theyre dating someone else (Aditya, 2009). Based on the above phenomenon can be concluded that gays also experience conflict in the relationship they live. Conflict experienced by gay is different from one another. Some show conflict-related issues of jealousy, usually higher sexual jealousy compared to emotional jealousy. The goal to be achieved from this research is to know how the management of the relationship conflict romance gay couple. The research was conducted using qualitative method which refer to phenomenological interpretation assisted by Interpretative Phenomenology Analysis (AFI) or IPA in Smith and Osborn (2009: 97-99) aims to reveal in detail how participants interpret the personal and social world. The results showed that the pattern of interpersonal communication and maintenace relationship gay couples play an important role in self-actualization as an inauguration of gay identity. either to oneself or to the community. The research informants were chosen using purposive sampling (snowball technique), where the data collected using interview, observation, and diary record. Through this research the authors hope people understand the conditions and situations of the gay, so it will be more to give a better attitude that can be accepted by the gay as part of harmony in society. In gay couples, aspects of interpersonal communication are very important such as trust, intimacy, closeness, relative positive affect and communication. Interpersonal communication about openness in courtship is considered very important for the continuation of relationships. Couples in this study solve conflicts that occur in a relationship with a way to always meet when the head is cold and speak openly to find the best solution of the conflict that occurred.