PENGELOLAAN KECEMASAN DAN KETIDAKPASTIAN DALAM LONG DISTANCE COMMUNICATION ANTARA ORANGTUA DENGAN ANAK YANG MENEMPUH PENDIDIKAN DI BOARDING SCHOOL

Abstract

Abstract Giving a good education to the children is a hope for every parents today. The boarding school education system comes as one of new alternative for education that give a holistic learning program not only in academic sides, but also in life education sides. All of the students must be stayed in dormitory and this condition makes them live separately from their parents so they have to do a long distance communication. This situation is risky when the children could feel the anxiety and uncertainty, because there are some regulations that bound the use of communication media. So that, the uncertainty and anxiety managements are needed the most in this case. The aim of this research is to describe the experiences how parents and child could manage the anxiety and uncertainty while they have to do a long distance communication. Using Uncertainty Reduction Theory, Self Disclosure Theory, and Dialouge Theory by Martin Buber, this qualitative descriptive research that uses constructivism paradigm with phenomenological approach research three pairs of parent and child that lived outside Java Island. The outcomes of this research show that long distance communication is risky to have uncertainty and anxiety, and felt more by the parents. But, in this case, parent-child that have a special intimacy has a way to help the proccess of anxiety uncertainty management, beside that, the case when a child has a self willing to enter the boarding school, the anxiety uncertainty is more effective. There are other unique outcomes, where children could feel more intimate with their parents when they are apart in long distance, then there are others factor that have contribution in managing the anxiety uncertainty management those are adaptation, self disclosure, and trustworthiness. Uncertainty Reduction Theory explains that the condition of long distance communication with minimum face to face conversations is risky to have more uncertainty and anxiety, but the outcomes of this research improve with the fact that the anxiety uncertainty couldn’t be relevant if there are good and effective management in it. Key words : anxiety and uncertainty, parent-child, long distance communication, boarding school.